A few weeks ago, I was discussing with a friend about how we are able to achieve things.
He was saying that he has to work a lot, while I was saying that if I want to achieve something, either it’s a change or anything else, I just focus my attention towards what I want to achieve and go through a relevant experience.
Simply because I can stay laser focused, it helps me get to the second part of my adventure towards achieving the desired thing.
And then, I started asking questions to both of us.
“How often it happens that you have to work really hard to achieve something?” I asked him. And he answered that almost every time.
Also, I asked myself how often it happens for me to get to the second part of my adventure towards achieving the desired thing, only by being laser focused and going through a relevant experience. The answer was the same – almost every time.
It looks like behind each spontaneous answer is a belief which is driven by the subconscious mind.
All Your Beliefs Are Inside Your Subconscious
Seeing that things are happening this way, I’ve started noticing something else.
If you want to spot a powerful belief, pay attention to questions and how people answer questions when it comes to what people want to achieve.
Realizing this, I’ve started asking questions almost every people I met.
“What do you want to do for the next 1-3 years?” was the starting question.
Right after that, I was asking even more questions, in order to better understand them and their beliefs.
If you want to try this out, here are other questions that would work as well:
- Why haven’t you achieved it yet?
- What would you have to do to rush the process of achieving?
Now comes the interesting part.
If the answer I was getting was a spontaneous and direct one, it was a belief. And most of the times, that belief was opposed to the things they’ve wanted to achieve.
It made me realize that those people won’t achieve their goal too soon (maybe never) or they will work way too hard to achieve it. Simply because that belief will drag them down.
The Difference Between Self-confidence and Ignorance
I’ve started thinking a lot about beliefs.
Besides the fact that I’ve found myself really interested in paying attention to beliefs in this way – by asking questions and spotting spontaneous answers – I’ve started paying attention to myself and how I answer questions.
The mess that I’ve discovered made me go even deeper.
It has helped me realize there’s a really tiny difference between being self-confident and being ignorant about what’s happening around you.
When you’re confident or you’re ignorant, you have some really powerful beliefs that are setting you on one of the two paths.
As long as you are confident in your own strengths, you know that nobody can stop you, you know that the road you’ve taken is the road that you had to take, and so on.
The same happens when you’re ignorant.
You know you live in a shitty society, you know you are part of a bad entourage, you know that your family didn’t offer you the desired attention. Therefore, you start ignoring all these pieces of your life.
So, there’s a really tiny difference between being self-confident and being ignorant. Both of them are strongly connected to your beliefs. But that really tiny difference is going to define the way you live your life.
If you are self-confident, but you’re not ignorant, it means that you know you can go towards your main objective without ignoring other paths you can take.
If you are ignorant, and it won’t matter how self-confident you are, for sure you’ll be blinded and won’t be capable of seeing anything else that could be really important for achieving your desired thing.
The Positive and The Negative in Self-confidence and Ignorance
The belief that you’re confident in your own strengths can be both positive and negative.
Here are two examples:
- When I trust myself that I’m open to experience new stuff without being afraid – positive belief
- I trust myself so much that I’m arrogant – negative belief
The same happens when you’re ignorant, and here are the two examples:
- I ignore the things that are not helping me achieve my objective – positive belief
- I ignore absolutely everything because everything harmed me in the past and I believe it will happen the same in the present – negative belief
Two Ideas to Conclude With
- Our life is already decided by our subconscious.
If you want to have control of your life, you need to understand and calibrate your subconscious.
- It doesn’t matter if a belief is positive or negative.
What matters is how much a belief is helping you achieve your objectives or not.
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