You see, the information you have right now (what you do, the way you do it – for example, how you speak and the way you speak) it’s from your parents. And while that could have worked twenty years ago, right now it may be too old and you may not speak properly according to the current age. Again, replace the word ‘speak’ with any other action.
So you are currently using information that is a few dozen years old. Don’t worry, in some cases that information is still all right. But you’re going to start worrying when you realize that your parents learned the same things from their parents (your grandparents). Even worse, when your grandparents learned it from their parents and you now have that information, that can be older than one hundred years.
To conclude this first point, things are fucked up and most goals we set ourselves have nothing to do with what we want because the information we have is not ours and it’s not even helping us – because it’s too old.
If you want to do something about it, start questioning everything and relearn everything. It will be hard, so hard you’ll want to quit as soon as possible. But it’s worth it!