How to get rid of what’s holding you back

How to get rid of what's holding you back

Table of Contents

PART I
• Before everything, learn how to accept a change
• Types of mindset that help dealing with changes
• Identify, accept and move on

PART II
• The illusion of control is nothing more than pain
• The green and red dots behind failure

PART III
• The obstacles you set yourself are not in your control
• How to avoid creating obstacles
• The struggles behind trial and error

When you think about your failures, you may see them as the result of your lack of knowledge, lack of action, or as the result of being surrounded by the wrong people. Sometimes, you may even see it as the result of bad luck.

But all these things aren’t actually holding us back.

If you lack knowledge, just study more, get knowledgeable and try again. If you lack action, create yourself a plan, make it specific, and try again. If you’re surrounded by the wrong people, define the type of people you want around you, search for them, and try again.

The thing is, when you have to try again after you’ve failed, that’s when the things that are holding you back appear.

Most of the time, those are things like:

  • The feeling of control and the control you feel you need to have;
  • The obstacles you set yourself.

Let’s imagine you want to make a living out of your passion and transform your passion into a business. You have no clue how to do it so you set yourself to buy a few books and enroll in some courses. You invest over $250 into educating yourself on the topic and, after two months of studying, you decide you want to put into practice, even though you haven’t finished learning the initial material you set yourself to learn.

You create social media profiles on Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, a website to promote your products or services, and you start speaking about your new business. But soon enough you see there are no sales and people don’t seem too interested in what you’re doing.

It’s been four months since you decided to transform your passion into a business and you start feeling sad, maybe even frustrated or depressed.

That’s when the feeling of control appears. You’ll want to feel anything but sad, frustrated, or depressed and you’ll control the presence or have to adjust a few things for that to happen.

As I’ve said, it’s important how you behave when your expectations aren’t met. Knowing that you’ll eventually get where you want to be, will impact the way you behave when your expectations aren’t met.

This tool will help you:

  • Understand the control behind who you are and decide who you should be.

  • Discover the green and red dots behind failure.

  • Understand why the obstacles you set yourself aren’t in your control.

  • Learn how to avoid creating obstacles.

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Table of Contents

PART I
• Before everything, learn how to accept a change
• Types of mindset that help dealing with changes
• Identify, accept and move on

PART II
• The illusion of control is nothing more than pain
• The green and red dots behind failure

PART III
• The obstacles you set yourself are not in your control
• How to avoid creating obstacles
• The struggles behind trial and error