As long as you ask yourself the right questions, you will set yourself to discover the truth.
The ability to properly ask questions is probably the number one soft skill you should have. The better your questions are, the easier you will access information. It will help you dive deeper into your core so you can reach that part of you that gives life meaning.
Asking the right question is about paying attention to details and putting the details together so you can see a different picture. But it is hard because most details worth paying attention to seem to be invisible.
To be able to find the right question, you’ll have to gather all the details related to what you’re looking for and become conscious of every aspect of every detail – that’s hardly possible.
Instead, the right question should be seen as a set of questions crafted in such a manner that their answers provide you with the solution to whatever you set yourself to discover. And that should be the truth.
If you’re looking for anything but the truth, you won’t need to ask any specific question. You just need to let things happen around the chaos that’s already present in your life and that chaos will present to you as the truth of your reality. But deep down, behind your reality (which is part of the society you’re living in) and the beliefs connected to your whole existence, there’s the truth that’s still waiting for the right questions.
As long as you ask yourself the right questions, you’ll eventually end up in a place where you’ll understand yourself. And the truth will set you free from all the chaos that you’ve created yourself.
2 methods to ask the right questions
Learning how to ask the right questions is not a difficult thing to do.
Therefore, here are 2 methods I usually use when asking the right questions seems to be needed. These methods will help you (or those around you) have more clarity and better understand what you’re doing.
1st Method: The 5W + 1H
In order to find the right questions, you’ll have to start with the most basic questions. These questions start with Who, Where, What, When, Why, and How.
Let’s say you just had an interview and it seems that the company will want to hire you. In such a case, you should be searching for more information about the company so you know if it’s the right fit for you or not.
In your research process, you may start with simple questions such as:
- Who is the CEO of the company?
- Where is the company heading to?
- What are the goals of the company?
- When are these goals supposed to be achieved?
- Why are these specific goals part of the company’s vision?
- How can I contribute to achieving these goals?
As you can see, I started digging more about the goals just with these 6 questions.
If the company is going to answer the questions, for sure I’ll have more clarity over what’s going on inside the company. But is it enough?
That depends on you and what you want to know. If the information you get is satisfying, then great. If not, you can use the second method.
2nd Method: Identifying the SMART system
Everything out there can be defined by the SMART system.
SMART is an acronym and it’s been used for setting goals. But it can be used anywhere. You can use it when you’re going shopping or when you’re going for a short run. It doesn’t have to be related to, let’s say, a 3-month goal.
SMART stands for:
- S – Specific: Well defined and clear
- M – Measurable: Includes a specific criterion that you want to measure
- A – Achievable: It doesn’t require resources you don’t have or resources you can’t obtain
- R – Realistic: It is relevant for whatever you want to do
- T – Timely: It has a defined timeline, with a start and an end date
Considering this is related to setting goals, how can you use this for asking the right questions?
Let’s continue with the previous example where you’re expecting to get hired.
Here’s a list of questions you can ask that are related to the smart system:
- Can you share the main goal the company has for the next year?
- What is the main unit of measurement when it comes to this goal?
- Does the company have the internal resources to make this goal happen?
- Considering the goal should be achieved by the end of the year, is this a realistic deadline?
If you look closely at these questions, they are connected to the SMART system and you can use them to discover in-depth information about what you’re looking for.
The key element in asking the right questions
Asking the right questions has to do with how you look at what you’re trying to discover.
If you’re trying to discover your passions, asking the right questions is about the way you understand passions and their purpose for your life.
If you believe you need a passion just so you can’t be bored anymore, you may ask questions like:
- What activities can I do for the next few days?
- What are others doing to not get bored?
If you believe you need a passion so you can make more money and have a lifestyle build around that specific passion, you may ask questions like:
- How passionate people are earning their money?
- What passions are the most capable of solving a need?
- How much money can I make through these passions?
- How am I going to be sure that I’ll be passionate about these activities?
The key element in asking the right questions has a lot to do with a combination of curiosity and desire. The curiosity of being interested in new things and the desire of discovering them.
With love and optimism,