I started writing in 2009 but only in 2015-2016, when I wrote my first book, I truly realized that writing is something that I want to do for many years … maybe for the rest of my life. But achieving the dream was never easy.
I remember that in 2009 I had a blog on the Internet where I was writing under a name that I don’t remember. Only a few close people knew that I was the author and they seemed to appreciate what I was writing because they were reading and commenting on my articles.
In 2012 I made the decision the change things a bit and I gave up anonymity. That helped me to print my first book, four years later, with the help of the community around me, without investing a penny. But that wasn’t the only benefit. I’ve improved my writing and thinking skills. Moreover, I’ve demonstrated myself that I can live my life differently than having a 9-to-5 job, as society encourages us all to live.
Society will tell us to do many things that have nothing to do with achieving the dream
It told me that it is really hard (almost impossible) to do what I love and make a living out of it. And I’ve seen it everywhere.
I’ve seen it in myself and my desire for writing and making a living out of it. I’ve seen it in others and in their desires of dancing, painting, making music, creating handmade stuff and making a living out of it. But unfortunately, I’ve also seen it in those who couldn’t make it and they told others that it’s not possible.
Towards reaching my objective of having a financial income from writing I’ve had set many small goals to overcome. Some of them I’ve managed to overcome; on others I’m still working. And I’ll mention one of each.
I’ve always believed that there’s a thing I’m not too good at and that’s finding clients who would pay me for what I do best. But It’s not as simple as it seems. I’m an idealist and I’ve always been looking at things differently – oftentimes I tend to see things differently than they are. I look at people and see the potential; a potential that when I share it with those specific people, they look at me like I’m a weirdo who only imagines things. While this can come in handy in areas like innovation and growth, it’s not beneficial at all when it comes to something like a simple process of communication. There are many moments where, for example, I tell people things can get better and they refuse to see it because they are limited by their past experiences and by the way society developed them. This is why I’ve been having difficulties communicating with other people and I still believe that finding the right clients is an obstacle. But I’m working on it.
At the opposite pole, I can say that having my first book printed is one of the things I’ve wanted and did happen. But after having my first book printed in 2016, with the help of my community, many things have changed. That specific community is not active anymore because I’ve changed and started wanting other things. And it took me three years to get to a point where I managed to print all my books, each in 250 copies which I will deliver in the next two or three years worldwide.
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Achieving the dream wasn’t simple at all – it was a great effort
Before everything, it was a financial effort of 5000 euros. But I’ve always believed that as long as I’m making a financial investment that will help more people, not just myself, the money will come back.
More than that, it was an emotional effort.
In the last years, I’ve encountered many obstacles from other people. When I started working from home, in 2013, others were telling me that I shouldn’t do that – that I should finish my studies and find a 9-to-5 job. Most of those people are now freelancers and don’t have a 9-to-5 job or they are entrepreneurs. At a certain point, I had a mentor and even though his help was amazing in specific areas (like public speaking, personal growth, and more), he has always been insisting that I should find a 9-to-5 job and “do what everyone else does”. I’ve been encouraged, for sure. But it’s weird how you end up in a place where you ask yourself if those who have been present in your life for many years are the ones that should be an important part of the rest of your life.
The financial investment in printing these books has been an emotional effort because I’ve had to have the courage to pursue what I want, no matter what recommendations I’ve got from people who are important to me.
I hope that you, the one who is reading this message, consider the two following things:
1) If you have a dream and you want that dream to become part of your reality, keep going and don’t stop until you’re achieving the dream. I encourage you to keep going no matter what dream you may have, assume it and keep dreaming pragmatically. You are the only one who can make the decision to stop. Others are only recommending things.
2) If you are in a situation where someone close to you has a dream, don’t recommend them a different road. If you can’t support them, just be neutral. There’s no way you’ll help them if you recommend something different than what they want. And, most probably, they will take you out of their lives.
With love and optimism,
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