Not getting disappointed and being able to accept whatever life throws your way is connected to being present and, in the past years, I’ve been writing many about the importance of being present.
But disappointment is connected to something deeper than that.
Let’s say you set yourself a goal. It can be any goal. For a second, imagine you are a writer and you set yourself to go to a networking event to talk about your books. The day of the event has come and, when you get there, you feel odd. Maybe it’s something you ate, or something you noticed reminded you of a past negative event. Or maybe it’s simply not your kind of event. Because of that, you feel how your energy is getting sucked out of your body.
All of a sudden, the event is not about you talking about your books, but about you managing the little energy you have left so you can maybe meet new people.
When the event is over, you get back home and you are disappointed because you didn’t share anything with anyone about your books.
And here comes the important question.
Where did the goal of talking about your books come from?
How did that specific goal arrive in your mind and manifest as a thought? Where did it come from?
At a deeper level, we are just a channel
The thoughts you have, be they goals, worries, fears, ideas, or whatever, are the product of your mind. But the energy that influences the mind is outside the mind.
When you say you set yourself a goal, you give your mind the opportunity to create some thoughts and connect them in such a way that eventually you have a goal. But before you do that, there’s something deeper that influences all the things that will ever happen inside your mind.
Everything is made of energy and that energy governs everything. Your ability to connect to that energy that can help you improve your life is what eventually got you to the point where you set yourself that specific goal.
But…
When you do that, if you’re not connected to yourself as well, truly and authentically, you will set yourself a goal that has nothing to do with what you need right now.
Looking back at our hypothetical situation from the beginning of the article, setting the goal of talking about your books was not an authentic goal. It was connected to something you wanted, but not something you needed.
Instead, maybe you needed more (as in, it had a higher priority) to learn how to better manage the situations where your energy is low. Therefore, you created yourself the situation where you could achieve such a goal.
But because you didn’t want that and you blindly chased the idea of talking about your books, you became disappointed when it didn’t happen. And because of that blindness, you also couldn’t understand that you learned something new about managing situations when your energy is low.
To never get disappointed ever again, let go, stay present, and accept the new
“Always plan for the fact that no plan ever goes according to plan.” – Simon Sinek
I love this quote because it perfectly describes the idea of letting go.
Just let go of whatever plan you have and stay present in whatever life throws your way. When you do that, you are one step closer to accepting the new.
Accept the good and the bad and put the meaning you need on whatever happens. The meaning you need in your life is totally under your control. You are the one who decides the meaning of your experiences.
With love and optimism,
David
