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How to avoid negativity as a way of living

Your reality is made up of the result of your thoughts, which generate both emotions and actions that can be distracted by negativity. What you’re thinking every day is what you are at the end of every day.

When it comes to your emotions, they are some sort of blanket that hides information or shows you things in a way that you want to see them. For example, you may be in love with a murderer but you don’t see the bad side of things because of how strong your emotions are.

When it comes to your actions, they are the foundation of who you are. What you do is directly related to how you (and the whole world) see yourself. Every action matter because, in the end, your actions create your decisions that directly impact your quality of life.

Both your emotions and actions are the result of your thoughts. It means that, if your thoughts are negative, both your emotions and actions will somehow end up being negative.

You can’t simply control all of your thoughts. Most of them are part of your subconscious. That’s why it’s really important to be aware of the external factors that shape your way of thinking. Therefore, ask yourself what are you currently constantly listening to or reading. Maybe it’s a TV Show, a blog, or something else. After that, try to analyze if that information is positive or negative.

And there’s one more thing: don’t get trapped in the negativity of now. You may want to continue to consume the information just because it’s related to the present moment and you may not care about how negative it is. But every day your process of thinking is changing and, after a while, you’ll see yourself thinking negatively without knowing why.

Experiment one month without a negative source of information

Look around you. What are the sources of negative information around you?

For sure, TV and social media are one of them. Maybe there are more. Maybe you are in a social circle where your friends only gossip and there’s nothing valuable about that.

Whatever the negative source of information is, experiment for one month without it.

I don’t have a TV and I’m barely active on social media. I use Facebook to post the articles I’m publishing here, LinkedIn for some networking, and Instagram for when I’m in the mood of sharing a photo. I used to share one photo a month, now I’m doing it less and less.

But whenever I visit my parents, they watch these reality shows (I don’t even know how to call them) with a huge dose of drama. And it’s sad because as long as you get into the habit of watching that much drama on a daily basis, your brain can’t properly work anymore.

The more you get your brain to consume something without effort, the less you’ll be able to make your brain think about things outside what it usually consumes. And there’s no effort in watching a TV show, drama or no drama included.

Therefore, if you’re usually watching TV (whatever you’re watching on it) try to live one month without TV.

If you’re usually spending time on social media, scrolling on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok, or whatever app you’re addicted to, try to live one month without using any social media app.

The more you’ll feel the craving, the more you’ll have to realize how addicted you are to it. And that there’s no value in it.

We’re addicted not only to negativity, but to dumb information as well. Seeing someone slapping someone else is so dumb that we consider it funny. And we want more. And the more we have, the more we want. That’s addiction.

This type of addiction is bad in case you want to:

  • Live a better life;
  • Have a better job with a higher salary;
  • Travel the world;
  • Write a book;
  • Learn to play an instrument;
  • And so on.
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The more you feed your addictions the less your brain will be able to properly function and help you with all the amazing things you want to achieve in your life.

And the worst thing is that we love to be addicted.

You love the feeling of comfort when you don’t have to do anything. You love the zero-effort actions required by social media or TV. And it wouldn’t be that bad if social media, TV, or any of your negative social circles would provide you with something useful. But they’re not.

On the other hand, if the information would have helped you grow, would you be able to consume it as much as you consume the negative information?

Of course not because growth requires effort.

Pick any podcast that gives you valuable information and try to listen to it 4 hours a day. You simply can’t, especially if you want to do it every day, for one month. You need time to process the information and put it into practice.

And that’s the thing; with the information you consume on social media and TV, you’re not required to make any effort. Therefore, social media provides you with whatever information it wants and you consume it because it doesn’t require any effort.

Negativity as a way of living

I see people speaking about having a healthy lifestyle, doing all types of physical exercises, and eating healthy food.

I see people speaking about having a work-life balance, doing what they’re passionate about while having a 9-to-5 job.

I see people speaking about great things that they achieve and they always provide you with practical steps on how to get there. But as long as you don’t remove the negative habits that are keeping you where you are, changing your life will be hard.

Therefore, think of your way of living right now and try to understand how much of it could be described as a negative way of living. Then try to remove the negativity out of it and replace it with something you would enjoy doing.

With love and optimism,

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