If you’re a confident person, you’re probably thinking, “of course I trust myself”. At the opposite pole, if you’re an introvert and a shy person, you’re probably thinking, “I find it hard to trust myself”.
But it doesn’t matter. The self you’re talking about is different than the one I’m referring to.
When I say that you should put your trust in yourself, you probably see all the things connected to your identity.
You see your job, family, relationships, beliefs, body, hobbies, work, interests and all these things that are connected to your identity. When you put your trust in your identity, you can easily lose it.
You can get fired and that will influence how much you can trust yourself with providing safety to you and your family.
You can have an accident, break your leg, or become paralyzed, and you’ll lose the trust you have in your body.
Things can always change in your life and those changes will always influence your identity. Putting your trust in your identity, when you experience change, will bring you a lot of uncertainty and doubt.
On the other hand, you can always move on from identity and see yourself as more than just your identity. Because you are more.
You are a soul part of an oversoul. You have God inside you. You have a higher self that’s constantly guiding you. You are everything you experience and, through what you experience, you can discover this bigger part of yours, as long as you can look beyond your identity. Put your trust in that.
When you trust yourself from this position, it doesn’t matter what happens because you understand that every experience is the right experience for you.
And when you know that whatever happens in your life, it’s always going to benefit you, then why do you care how it happens?
You shouldn’t care.
When you know that you will always benefit from what happens to you, no matter how it looks (good or bad), you start trusting yourself. The self that is beyond identity.
Your identity is standing in your way
If you tell yourself that something bad happened to you, you do that because, through your identity, you have defined the way you want to experience life. Anything that doesn’t match that definition will be seen as a bad experience.
If you don’t like crowded places and a friend tells you to meet with them in the center of the town, at a festival, you’ll dislike the invitation and probably won’t even go.
If you don’t eat meat and the waiter accidentally serves you meat, you’ll get mad at them for killing animals.
If you believe you are a great driver but you crash your car in an accident, you’ll blame the other driver for everything.
No matter how bad something looks, we are the creators of that experience. The same goes for good and great experiences.
We are the creators.
We create the lives we live.
Therefore, there are no accidents. Whatever you experience as an accident, is the result of all the decisions you made along the way. It doesn’t matter how aware you were of these decisions when you made them – they’re still yours.
And since you are the creator, you should believe that everything happens for you and you benefit from anything that happens for you.
Trust that.
Trust that part of yourself that is beyond identity
In the past few years, with how I lived my life and the way I discovered spirituality, it became clear to me that what we know about ourselves is just a concept of the mind.
But the mind is limited. The mind simply can’t know it all.
Your mind is connected to your senses, which makes the way you define your identity limited to your senses.
You are not just what you see, feel, hear, smell, and touch. You are beyond that.
And if you have no connection with spirituality, I understand this sounds… odd.
It’s because you’ve been used to what society has been telling you about who you are. But maybe… just maybe… it’s time to explore yourself beyond that.
With love and optimism,
David
